Personally, I think someone haggling you to give up your bottle is extremely rude. It is not that you are 'selfish', it is that the other person lacks the notion of personal boundaries. Most people learn these kinds of things at a young age ("Don't play with so-and-so's toys!") but some people may have never learned or appreciated these things in childhood, leading to this kind of socially unacceptable behavior as an adult. It's not ok to touch, take, or use other people's things without their permission!
A tactful way you can deal with this situation is to send the person links or information about where they can purchase their own bottle. I would suggest that perhaps you could decant a little of your perfume for the offending person, but, that might encourage their bad behavior even more - when it runs out, they'll be back for more!
A very excellent suggestion, really. I'm sorry, Amarah, that you've had to deal with the persistent selfishness of someone else making you feel like the selfish one. It's easy to do, especially if you've been raised as the responsible older sister or the peacekeeping middle child.
Your manners are not at fault, and please tell yourself not to feel guilty. This kind of eager, well meaning ( ? ) behavior from friends and family is the stuff of nightmares, as they never fully comprehend how unfair or miserable their behavior makes others. Something left out in their upbringing?!
Give yourself a hug, consider sending her a link to finding her OWN bottle as suggested above, and PUT YOUR COLLECTION OUT OF SIGHT the next time she comes for a visit. Better yet, go to her house......... Some people never learn how not to be invasive, so you will have to "help" her.
Last edited by drugstore classics (2012-12-28 21:19:37)
<3 Perfume is my affirmation that Intangibles Matter. <3