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Yes its really annoying when that happens, especially when you see the perfume on the persons wish list! This has happened to me also several times (I make a mental note of these people and vow never to PM them with swap offers again!)
Like Rizack2 said no one minds if you send a PM saying you are considering it or need time to test the perfume offered etc.
PerfumesI wouldnt take it so personal, you never know what people are going through in their lives and last summer there were a lot of messages, posts and feedback that got deleted.
Also, if someone is rude to others, i generally wouldnt get involved in a swap with them.
It always surprises me that so many get rude PMs here. It never happened to me, I wonder why... Only once did I get a PM asking if I would swap perfumes not listed in my swap topic, and that was an extremely friendly and polite message.
That people sometimes offer things that are uneven in value doesn't bother me. Maybe they don't know. There could easily be cheaper perfumes that I really want but can't find anywhere.
I recently swapped a perfume that I stated was a 30ml, and upon her receiving it she pointed out that it was actually a 50ml, and immediately sent me extra decants to even it up - even though I said she shouldn't.
I just can't be bothered to get p*ssed off unless people are rude. And so far they aren't.
... And why would anyone be rude to you? As if it was any different!
But thank you 
(And agian, I was only speaking in general terms, not your case in particular. Which was definitely a rude approach, I agree).
Last edited by EK (2012-04-05 06:51:02)
seatonica wrote:I thought there was a block/ignore feature?
There isn't ... sadly.
Bummer.
I've only swapped samples/decants. What's the etiquette pertaining to how much you should ask for? While my limited experience has been good I have been surprised by the long lists of requests.
I've only swapped samples/decants. What's the etiquette pertaining to how much you should ask for?
Don't think there is any etiquette ... the more you list, the more chances you have of finding members willing and able to provide you with samples/decants.
If you have tons, make the list easy to search, so for example, regroup all the fragrances from the same house, and list in alphabetical order, spacing at regular intervals to make it easy on the eyes.
I have traded things that were of more value then what i was getting in return. If you really don't want something then it is not being ripped off. I too remember not to ever trade with someone who is rude. If you are putting something for swap then you have plenty of time, or maybe you shouldn't even be swapping.
Has anyone got advice about feedback for uneven swaps if you're new and the other person has made a lot of swaps already? Evidently others haven't felt cheated, but I feel like I was taken advantage of; stupid of me, I guess, but the other swapper ended up with 2 new FBs, only tested 1-2 times, and 2 unopened new rollerballs, plus gifts - and I got 3 used bottles and 1 decant, and two of the three smell off - but I'm hesitant to leave any feedback. It's kind of like Ebay in the old days when you could get a retaliatory neative for leaving one. I realize it's "at your own risk" but it's left me feeling sad and has kind of soured the excitement I had about Fragrantica......
Hi Moka,
Have you tried sorting it out with the other person first?
Hi Dolby,
Yes - but met with a complete refusal - denied that there was anything wrong with the ones sent to me and refused to negotiate at all; acts like I'm trying to pull a scam or something - !
I'm sorry you weren't able to communicate with this person. I guess all you can do now is leave an appropriate feedback.
This shouldn't put you off swapping, but next time, exchange clear pictures and ask questions such as how old the perfumes are, and which condition they were kept in (especially if unboxed).
Thanks - yes, I'll be a lot less gullible from now on....it just hurt my feelings quite a bit because this person came across SO friendly and sweet and I was willing to be generous - caught up in the excitement of the whole thing since I'm new to it. It does seem like most people are extremely nice and genuine. I'll just have to be more discerning, I guess!
Perfumesi saw this , and im quite new to swapping internationally, otherwise i trade with people i know and dealt with more than twice nationally.
On fragrantica though i tend to get really um....'stingy offers' ?
I get offers like a perfume i can buy of fragrancex for 25USD wanting to swap for an exclusif line theirry mugler, oh an this takes d cake : a few 'body mist' from VS is okay for a swap of alien taste of frags
at the risk of sounding whiney im going to ask "i was just wondering if this was normal and has other members has similar experiences,"
I have had this experience. I replied to a "cheapies" offer and was asked for my very expensive Diors and Guerlains in exchange for a cheapie. Sorry, that deal didn't work out. 
Last edited by Conifer lover (2012-06-08 21:00:25)
Perfumes@ EK, we all make mistakes...you did not mix up the name deliberately. I'm still new here, chances are, I might make the same mistake eventually.
Perfumesi saw this , and im quite new to swapping internationally, otherwise i trade with people i know and dealt with more than twice nationally.
On fragrantica though i tend to get really um....'stingy offers' ?
I get offers like a perfume i can buy of fragrancex for 25USD wanting to swap for an exclusif line theirry mugler, oh an this takes d cake : a few 'body mist' from VS is okay for a swap of alien taste of frags
at the risk of sounding whiney im going to ask "i was just wondering if this was normal and has other members has similar experiences,"
You will also find that many swappers have drugstore items galore for swap that would be nice to have for equal trade...but, only have niche and ultra luxury on their want lists. It's a waste of your time. I wonder how they manage a swap.
And, when I say swapping cheap for ultra luxury, I mean that these folks are wanting bottles, not decants...and some luxury fragrances are so expensive that they have listed...one spritz would cost more that 30 ml of what they are offering.
It makes me mad. Especially, since I cannot afford ultra luxury, yet have offers worth equal value of what they are swapping!!
I can understand if an underrated offer is made by mabye $20-$40..you can counteroffer or say they have to come down to reality a bit. But, when the differance is $200+...that's insane.
But, it happens.
Last edited by snowbunny007 (2012-06-29 22:12:19)
It's been said before, but it's so frustrating if people don't answer messages about a possible swap. Is it so much trouble to say, thanks for your offer, but I am not interested?
PerfumesI just asked a question regarding swapping etiquette in another thread. Here was a link posted from another member...
http://www.nstperfume.com/2008/02/13/pe … r-perfume/
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